A List Maker's Life: Doing Life Together*

Friday, February 12, 2010

Doing Life Together*

We all desire a sense of community.  Unfortunately for most of us we leave it behind when we move out of the dorm.  For the most part, gone are the days of eating together in our jammies, dropping by unexpectedly to offer a study break or heart to heart, grocery shopping in groups, and solving lifes problems next to the bathroom sink with toothbrushes still in hand.

Why do we close the door on community, the kind we loved and often still long for, as we build our families?
Is there a sense of vulnerability?  Are we hesitant to open ourselves to judgment, questioning, criticism?  Perhaps we are worried about expectations, jaded by relationship disappointments, or just afraid to spread ourselves too thin in a world where our immediate family needs - deserves - so much of our time.

Excuses? Realities? Maybe.

Yet, I have hope for the kind of life where we...

...take a fussy baby from the arms of a friend to offer a moment of relief and kindness.
...throw an extra car seat in the van for an unplanned play date, giving another momma the gift of an errand with one less buckle to strap on and off.
...put together a spur of the moment dinner visit and care little about what's served, but a lot about what's said.
...celebrate the little (and not-so-little) milestones that may (or may not) be posted on facebook.
...plan for summer vacations together.
...share recipes, clothes, and secrets.
....sit on the edge of the tub with each other as we bathe our kids.
...are willing to speak the hard truths to sharpen one another.
...drop by just to pass on the latest magazines and greatest books as soon as we've finished reading them.
...talk candidly with each other even on topics where we don't have the same thoughts, opinions, and conclusions.

The kind of life where we take our everyday, ordinary
and do it together!
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*My post title is borrowed from Kelly's blog. The more I think about her blog's title, the more I love all that it implies.


  1. Katie, this is beautiful. And you're right, it's what we all long for. I'm going to act on some of your ideas. Thanks.


  2. I don't understand why "community" has become passe'. it makes no sense to me. Who doesn't want people you can rely on to be there when you need them most??

  3. You hit it on the head Katie!!!! It's my hearts desire to share in that kind of community:) Wishing you a great Saturday!!

  4. Beautiful and something I will try to act on too. Thanks for sharing!

  5. I love it!!!! We do need to be their for eachother, thanks for the reminder of the little things I can do.
    I do go grocery shopping with friends, it makes it way more fun:)

  6. I long for that too...

    my good friend graduates in May...

  7. Ok Katie, this is about the 3rd or 4th time you've written about something I had been thinking about or was on my mind...are you a mind reader? :) Very well said, and oh so close to what I've been thinking lately.

  8. this is a beautiful thought friend. and one that i intend on living.

  9. This is so lovely, and true.

    You are just the kind of person I want to do life with.

    I can't wait for when we come to visit during Tulip Time!


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