Tuesday, October 13, 2009
The Well-Behaved Child: Discipline that Really Works!
By John Rosemond
"The biggest frustration felt my parents today is in the area of discipline." Well, I'd say that applies in our family. We've been battling some bizarre behaviors with our children this fall. Therefore, this title by parenting expert and best selling author, John Rosemond was an obvious choice.
While many parenting books are written to define a philosophical system, they don't always have enough suggestions for the real life, HOW? The Well-Behaved Child is essentially a "how to" book with step by step suggestions for traditional parenting based on biblical principles and common sense. The book is loaded with real life examples that are easy to relate to. Topics include:
~Essential Discipline Principles and Tools
~Perplexing Problems and Simple Solutions
~Not Your Everyday Problems
~General Questions and Answers
John Rosemond would be considered a traditionalist in that he has a parent-centered, no nonsense approach to parenting. Yet, unlike many traditional parenting experts Rosemond speaks only briefly about spanking and does not base his suggestions solely on physical punishment. He does not agree with logical consequences and believes that parents should have full control of all decisions regarding effective punishment. He explains that consequences do not need to be immediate, and will still be effective in modifying behavior when applied hours or days later. The book lays out plans for using charts or tickets to help children monitor their behavior while working to eliminate specific problem areas.
As an educator with a psychology minor I have a lot of book knowledge about children and their development. This "psychobabble," as it is referred to in the book may be a hindrance to successfully training my own children. I must say that I struggled quite a bit with many of the statements in John's book, as well as his sarcasm. I begin to question whether I can be an effective Christian parent if I don't necessarily agree with everything in this book built, which is based on "biblical principle." However, Rosemond also suggested tools and solutions that may fit with our family parenting philosophy.
This book did get me thinking about our own children and our parenting techniques. I was asking questions. I was comparing, contrasting, and taking notes. Although I may have struggled with pieces of the material, the book was instrumental in modifying our behavior plan for our children at a time when it is necessary for us to re-look at what kinds of behavior we will accept, what behaviors we will not tolerate, and what we will do about it on a day to day basis.
I would love to hear your thoughts and comments about what you do in your home to train your children. Are there any books that have been helpful to you in this regard?
Thanks to Thomas Nelson Publishinig for providing this book free of charge in exchange for my review.